Dear Miss Tilney,
I recently started a new job and have been trying to connect with my co-workers and build a circle of people I can work well with. I have been placed in a smaller group with two others. These two, let’s call them Nancy and Shelly, are both around my age and are friendly people. However, I have connected more with the outgoing Nancy more so than the more reserved Shelly. Shelly does engage with others, but she doesn’t seem to have an interest in talking to or involving me unless absolutely necessary. The three of us have been assigned a single project that requires us to work together closely. How do I get Shelly to reach out to me instead of me always being the initiator?
The Invisible Coworker
Congratulations on your new job!
It sounds like you are making friends. From my own personal experience, it is a possibility that Shelley here simply does not like you. If she feels comfortable talking to others but not you, it might be a strong possibility. However, this doesn’t have to be a problem, if it’s even accurate. It is definitely possible to have a very good professional relationship built on mutual respect while absolutely hating each other as people. I have done it – so you can too. To make this work, you both need to communicate with each other. Regardless of whether or not she likes you as a person, your question is an important one and vital to your success here.
I pulled cards from my Luminous Spirit Tarot and my Spirit Cats Oracle. While I shuffled, I simply read the cards your letter, and pulled two of them. The first card I pulled was the Seven of Cups. The Seven of Cups represents choices. Both you and Shelley have a choice to make here. Your choice is whether or not to worry about this too much. You have to just treat this like a professional relationship, or try to be her friend. Shelley has to decide herself whether or not she is open to being friends. There is a snake in one of the cups, implying that there is a bad choice to be made here. For you, I believe the bad choice is worrying so much about this that it is distracting for you.
I also pulled the Eight of Pentacles. Interestingly, the Eight of Pentacles is about apprenticeship and moving up that corporate ladder! Or whatever field you are in. In this situation, I think it means to really focus on your professional relationship with Shelley and just try your best at this project. Hopefully, that will earn her respect and open her up a little bit. The ladder is a pretty obvious symbol of progression, so focusing on the professional relationship and working hard, showing diligence and passion in your job, will help you with this relationship.
I also pulled an oracle card for you. I pulled Balance. This little sky kitten reminds you to balance your work life and your play. Make sure you work hard on this project, and have some fun too! Up to you to figure out how though!
Best of luck, Invisible Coworker. I hope Shelley comes out of her shell!
Thanks you so much for writing in,
~ Miss Tilney
Disclaimer: tarot readings are for entertainment and spiritual purposes only. I do not claim to be, nor act as, a medical or legal professional and will not answer questions of that nature.