Choices, Changes, and Moving Forward

About six months ago, I opened an online tarot shop. I had realized that tarot combined a lot of what I loved into one perfect art form. Helping people, analyzing symbols to construct meaning (as an English Lit major, I’m into that), and simply having something to study.
After a year of reading tarot more seriously, I got ambitious, and I opened a tarot shop. Six months later, I have sold one reading. That is okay with me, as I work about 46 hours a week now and wouldn’t have a ton of time to work on readings anyways.
But if I have it open, I should be selling readings, right? It shouldn’t just sit there. So I should either close the store, or work harder. This article was born from my indecision. I just started writing how I felt about keeping the store open, and how I felt about closing it.
Spoiler alert! I am keeping it open. But I still want to share my feelings with you.
MT - Changes and ChoicesClosing the store could be a good idea right now. I don’t feel qualified enough to be sharing this skill with strangers. But what makes any tarot reader qualified? There are certifications, but they are really just pieces of paper that say I was trained by a specific person.
I have been reading tarot for about three years now, and reading “seriously” for one. Many readers start selling readings around that time. This isn’t something I can go to school for, so “qualified” would just mean experienced. And I can’t get the experience if I never start selling readings. So I will never be qualified enough to start until I have been selling readings for years.
Qualifications don’t matter. What I am lacking is confidence. I don’t feel like I can do this. I don’t think I have a distinctive voice when I give readings. I am not contributing anything original to the slew of tarot readers online. I want to be the kind of tarot reader that doesn’t sugar coat things. Instead, I want to leave you with something you can DO and something that eases your fears and anxieties.
But I tend to sugarcoat things. I don’t dive deep into the meaning of the cards when I read for others, because I am terrified of being wrong. What if I go into elaborate detail, and I am completely off? What then? That would make me a terrible tarot reader. I don’t want to be a terrible tarot reader!
I also don’t want to advertise. I am so frustrated by hundreds and thousands of the #ads that I see every day. They are everywhere. I mean, I love online shopping, and to online shop I need to see the stuff. But there are ads everywhere, aggressively pushing me to buy stuff, and it feels like they are constantly telling me I am not good enough. I don’t want to do that to you. I don’t want to talk anyone into it, force anyone into, or persuade anyone to get a reading from me. If you purchase a reading from me, I want you to buy a reading because you are interested in tarot already, know me, or need to think through something. Getting a reading should be relaxing and spiritually comforting. Essentially, it’s entertainment. A service that I do for you, which you find valuable enough to pay me for.
If this business went perfectly, I would be doing most of my readings locally. A cozy coffee shop would let me sit at a table for a few hours a week while I worked on articles for Magickal Mavens. There would be a small sign next to me stating that I offer free card readings, and that a reading was $15. As people passed by, they would ask me questions, and I would build connections. It would be cozy, and I would get really really good.
To get those coffee shops to let me sell readings in them, I need legitimacy. I need a logo, business cards, and reviews. I could work harder at learning the card meanings, and work harder overall. There are tarot courses and even certifications I could be pursuing. I want to get to a place where I feel more confident in my abilities. I also need branding. In this case, that means having a voice when I give tarot readings, on top of that logo we talked about earlier.
So, I need a plan. For now, I will leave my store open. I will work hard on creating a stronger understanding of the tarot card meanings, and work towards a more professional business with a logo.
Eventually, I want to be sitting in that coffee shop giving out readings.

~ Miss Tilney

Miss Tilney has pursued her own venture! Please follow her Instagram for readings.
Disclaimer:  tarot readings are for entertainment and spiritual purposes only. I do not claim to be, nor act as, a medical or legal professional and will not answer questions of that nature.
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Dear Miss Tilney – Anxiety & Self Care

Hello Mrs. Anxious!

Thank you so much for writing in! Your question was short and sweet.

“What is the root of my anxiety? And how do I address it?”

While this is a pretty vague question, it’s one that a lot of people, including myself, probably want answers to.
I do not feel comfortable answering this question outright, as it has to do with mental health. Many people have severe, life-impacting anxiety, and my advice won’t do much to help those people. Those of you with severe anxiety should make sure you are getting the professional help that you need. However, those with both severe anxiety and those with day-to-day worries and stress can use tarot to examine the root of their anxiety, and to do something about it.
I created two spreads to help you get at the root of your worries.
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Because you are feeling so anxious, taking the time to do a reading should be a moment of self-care. A lot of the time, the mere act of sitting down with my tarot cards to determine a course of action can soothe my worries. I like to do readings like this around bed time so that I can wind down my day directly after. Get some tea, a snack, and light a candle. I like to play ambient noises like waterfalls or nature sounds. Shuffle the cards, and jump in.
The first spread is a modified version of the simple past/present/future spread.
The traditional past/present/future spread includes three cards. The first cards examines what in your past is influencing your current situation. The second card represents the present situation, and the third card shows you what could happen if you remain on your current path.
In the modified version, I explore where your anxiety came from, how it is manifesting itself, and what you can do about it.
The first card answers the question “What is at the root of my anxiety?” This card will help you figure out where your worries came from. This could show you the true problem that is at the root of your worry and provide the first step towards fixing the problem.
The second card answers the question “How is my worry manifesting itself?” Knowing how your anxiety is affecting you can help you recognize what behaviors and feelings are coming from your anxiety rather than from you.
The third card answers the question “What can I do to ease my anxiety?” This card will show you something that you can actually do to either solve the problem or calm you down so that you are capable of solving the problem.
The second spread is more of a back and forth chat with your tarot deck.
A lot of the time, I prefer to read for myself this way. I pull out my deck, and I shuffle for a long time. As I shuffle, I chat. I tell my deck whatever I have been worried about lately, whether it seems relevant or not. At some point, my ramblings lead me to a specific question. When I get to that point, I ask the question, and pull a card. I take notes on the card, sometimes writing down the card name and the keywords, sometimes I write a full interpretation for that card, and sometimes I ignore it for the moment. Then, I ask any other questions that pop into my head.
If I had been feeling anxious and wasn’t sure why, the first question I would ask is “am I worried about something specific?” If the answer was yes, I would then ask “what is it that I am worried about?” if the first card didn’t clearly state my concern, or “what can I do to solve the problem?” If there wasn’t anything specific that I was worried about, I might ask my deck what I could do to calm down.
For more complicated questions, I pull a couple of cards at a time. I typically finish up readings that focus on negative feelings with something more positive. I love using my Spirit Cats deck to cheer myself up and bring me a little bit of peace, but any affirmation deck or oracle deck can be used to end on a positive note. One of my favorite questions to ask that deck is “what makes me capable of handling this situation?” The deck will remind you what makes you strong, capable, and brave.
After completing the reading, I like to wind down. These readings can be a little bit stressful, as they are addressing what is stressing you out right now. Though ending on a positive note or with an affirmation deck can help me with the stress, I like to go a step further.
Like I said earlier, I probably would have done this reading right before bedtime, so I can just move right into my bedtime routine. Most nights I try to do some yoga before I go to bed, and then shower. The yoga makes me exhausted and the shower makes me sleepy, so that I actually fall asleep once I get into bed.
Thank you for writing in Mrs. Anxious! I hope this helps you figure out what is going on, and I hope it helps any of our other lovely readers with their worries as well! Happy Sunday!

~ Miss Tilney

Miss Tilney has pursued her own venture! Please follow her Instagram for readings.
Disclaimer:  tarot readings are for entertainment and spiritual purposes only. I do not claim to be, nor act as, a medical or legal professional and will not answer questions of that nature.
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Temperance & How I Read Tarot

Lately, I have been struggling with balance.
A few days from now will be the one year anniversary of moving into our home. My boyfriend, my two kitties, and I, live in a tiny house that is currently kind of a mess.
In that year, I don’t feel like I have learned to adult any better. There are dishes in the sink, and pieces of cardboard all over living room (the cats tear up boxes), clothes all over the bedroom, and towels on the bathroom floor. I haven’t raked the leaves up outside, and there’s actually a dead wreath from last Christmas leaning against my house.
Sometimes, I feel like such a failure at this adult world. How do I balance a full time job, loving my boyfriend and cats, spending time with my friends, and hobbies? As usual, I turn to my tarot cards for help.
When I first started reading tarot, I did it by the book.
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Literally, I would take out that little book that came with the cards, and follow all of the instructions. I would shuffle the cards, fan them out, and hover my left hand over the deck, waiting until a card called to me. It never did, so eventually I would just grab cards, lay them out in a spread, and then flip them over one by one, interpreting them as I went.

I currently read tarot with a much more flexible approach.

I start by I getting a snack, lighting a candle, and then I journal. I write down what is on my mind, typically something that’s bothering me. Today, it’s how to balance all of this, and end up with a healthy body, thriving mind, and content soul.
With a hot cocoa from Starbucks, I sat down with my tarot journal and wrote. “It’s been a year since we’ve moved in. I spent a month of that year unemployed, and the house was really clean during that month. Now, I am working full time, and trying to balance that and a clean house and having fun. Last week I had a panic attack. What can I do to pull all of this together?”
After sorting through my thoughts, and identifying what I am truly worried about, I pull out my cards and I chat with them. Shuffling the cards and telling them my worries just takes away my anxieties. It sort of makes me feel more in control, like I am finally doing something about it.
This time, I actually pulled out a significator card.
Typically, a significator card is chosen to add a more personal element to the reading, and to symbolize the person asking for the reading. However, I almost never use them that way.
I pulled out Temperance to symbolize the theme of the reading, and to focus myself on seeking balance. I actually chose my deck today based on which deck contains my favorite temperance card.

I asked four questions:

What part of my life needs the most work?

What can I do to pull my life together and find that balance?

What are of my life is doing well?

What can I do to create a healthy body, thriving mind, and content soul?

What part of my life needs the most work?

I pulled Judgement, who’s keywords are “renewal, discover, transition, and rebirth”. This storm brings a light. It reminds me of the quote by Louisa May Alcott, “I’m not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship”. Taking control of my own life and learning how to have confidence in my decisions and how I am steering my ship will help me bring balance to my life, by helping me prioritize what I truly want out of it.

What can I do to pull my life together and find balance?

I pulled Ace of Arrows, and Lovers. The keywords for Ace of Arrows are “creativity, beginnings, passion, and inspiration”. Part of finding balance is following my own heart and doing what makes me happiest. However, I also pulled the lovers, who’s keywords are “love, relationships, trust, and values”. I need to focus on the needs of those I love as well as my own, and find a way to balance the two.
What part of my life is going well?
I pulled the Seven of Stones, which represents “accomplishments, recognition, assessment, and patience”. I am so happy this card came up when I asked this question, because I have been working really hard to not get overwhelmed with the huge list of tasks in front of me, which ranges from the immediate “clean the litter box”, to the farther away “get a job that pays great, rock at it, and also buy a house”. Thinking about what I need to do to get where I want to be is simply terrifying. I have been trying instead to focus on taking baby steps, and feeling accomplished for each step I take closer to my goals, rather than feeling overwhelmed by how far away my goals seem.
What should I focus on to create a healthy body, thriving mind, and content soul?
To create a healthy body, I pulled the King of Stones. He is “knowledgeable, stable, practical, and successful”. So I should just keep working out, doing my best, and working steadily towards my healthy body goals until I am successful. For a thriving mind, I pulled the Tower. Not a great card, and at first I was stumped by “disaster, shock, destruction, and chaos”. But when I thought about it, I realized it meant that my mind needs challenges, and difficult things to mull over, in order to thrive. This too will build confidence. Finally, the Knight of Arrows tells me how to get to a content soul. The Knight is “adventurous, flamboyant, confident, and passionate”. Best stated by the decks booklet, I need to “know who [I am] and love it!” Be myself, and it will bring me peace.
This reading did help me feel a little bit more at peace, and took away some of that anxiety. It gave me something to focus on. Tonight, I will do some yoga, love on my boyfriend a little bit, and try to make my decisions confidently.

~ Miss Tilney*

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Dear Miss Tilney – Invisible Coworker

Dear Miss Tilney,

I recently started a new job and have been trying to connect with my co-workers and build a circle of people I can work well with. I have been placed in a smaller group with two others. These two, let’s call them Nancy and Shelly, are both around my age and are friendly people. However, I have connected more with the outgoing Nancy more so than the more reserved Shelly. Shelly does engage with others, but she doesn’t seem to have an interest in talking to or involving me unless absolutely necessary. The three of us have been assigned a single project that requires us to work together  closely. How do I get Shelly to reach out to me instead of me always being the initiator?

Sincerely,

The Invisible Coworker

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Dear Invisible,

Congratulations on your new job!

It sounds like you are making friends. From my own personal experience, it is a possibility that Shelley here simply does not like you. If she feels comfortable talking to others but not you, it might be a strong possibility. However, this doesn’t have to be a problem, if it’s even accurate. It is definitely possible to have a very good professional relationship built on mutual respect while absolutely hating each other as people. I have done it – so you can too. To make this work, you both need to communicate with each other. Regardless of whether or not she likes you as a person, your question is an important one and vital to your success here.

I pulled cards from my Luminous Spirit Tarot and my Spirit Cats Oracle. While I shuffled, I simply read the cards your letter, and pulled two of them. The first card I pulled was the Seven of Cups. The Seven of Cups represents choices. Both you and Shelley have a choice to make here. Your choice is whether or not to worry about this too much. You have to just treat this like a professional relationship, or try to be her friend. Shelley has to decide herself whether or not she is open to being friends. There is a snake in one of the cups, implying that there is a bad choice to be made here. For you, I believe the bad choice is worrying so much about this that it is distracting for you.

I also pulled the Eight of Pentacles. Interestingly, the Eight of Pentacles is about apprenticeship and moving up that corporate ladder! Or whatever field you are in. In this situation, I think it means to really focus on your professional relationship with Shelley and just try your best at this project. Hopefully, that will earn her respect and open her up a little bit. The ladder is a pretty obvious symbol of progression, so focusing on the professional relationship and working hard, showing diligence and passion in your job, will help you with this relationship.

I also pulled an oracle card for you. I pulled Balance. This little sky kitten reminds you to balance your work life and your play. Make sure you work hard on this project, and have some fun too! Up to you to figure out how though!

Best of luck, Invisible Coworker. I hope Shelley comes out of her shell!

Thanks you so much for writing in,

~ Miss Tilney

Miss Tilney has pursued her own venture! Please follow her Instagram for readings.
Disclaimer:  tarot readings are for entertainment and spiritual purposes only. I do not claim to be, nor act as, a medical or legal professional and will not answer questions of that nature.
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Foundation of Tarot: History & Variation

My intention, in joining up with Magickal Mavens, is not to share a bunch of information or even to help you get started on your tarot journey. While I truly do hope that anyone reading this feels empowered to pick up their first deck and get started, there are so many other people who do it better. My goal here is to share my opinions about tarot, I have lots of them! However, in order to make sure everyone feels welcome, I feel like I should introduce you to tarot itself and how I got started with it.
Tarot is a system of Cartomancy. Basically, people have been using cards to tell the future since playing cards were invented. Honestly, I have never seen any evidence that playing cards have always been used to tell the future, so I am taking this with a grain of salt. Humans would use just about anything to try and tell the future with, from bones to runes to tea leaves, so maybe it’s perfectly true.
Foundation of Tarot - His and Variation
One of the first tarot decks was the Visconti-Sforza tarot deck. In this case tarot referred to the name of a game. It had (probably) about 78 cards following a similar structure to the modern tarot, with 22 Triumphi or Trump cards (the major arcana) and 54 suit cards (minor arcana). Major Arcana cards represent different archetypes and occult concepts, such as the High Priestess and the Hermit. Minor Arcana cards represent, in my opinion, the journey you go on through different aspects of your life, until you reach a point of fulfillment and accomplishment.
There are other forms of Cartomancy as well, such as the oracle form and the Lenormand. Oracle is fairly free, with no strict numbers of cards, and no particular cards have to be represented in an oracle deck. Most oracle decks are affirmation decks. The cards go over positive themes and are intended to be used for self-love and positivity. My favorite oracle decks are decks with both positive and negative cards. Balance in my tarot practice is very important to me. Lenormand is completely new to me, and I do not own any Lenormand decks. From what I understand, it is a 54 card system based on modern playing cards, and each card is associated with a symbol and a meaning. It seems like the least flexible form of Cartomancy. I look forward to exploring it in the future!
 
Modern tarot is based mostly on the Rider-Waite deck. The Rider-Waite deck (later called the Waite-Smith or simply the Smith deck in honor of the actual artist) was created by several people from an occultist group in 1910, and it was based on western symbolism and occult practices. So while playing cards may have been used for divination since around the 1400’s, the system that we use today has only been around for about 100 years.
My first deck was the Golden Tarot by Liz Dean. I would not recommend this deck for beginning readers. It is a pip deck, which means the suit cards look like playing cards with just 5 swords on the 5 of Swords card. This made it incredibly difficult to connect to and memorize as a beginner. I struggled with it for over a year before I purchased my next deck, the Idiosyncradeck. This deck had scenic suit cards, which allowed me to make a guess as to the meaning without looking it up, and also gave me an image to connect the meaning and the name of the card.
When recommending tarot decks for new readers, a lot of people offer up the Smith deck. Unfortunately, I have never felt connected to that deck at all. The characters are all dressed in medieval outfits, in what to me feels like an attempt to legitimize the practice by adding a sense of age to it. While I am so grateful for the Smith deck and the impact it has made on the tarot world, I just don’t want to buy it. Instead, I would recommend the Linestrider tarot. The images are more modern, easier to connect to, and the book that it comes with is fantastic.
I started reading the cards about three years ago. This hardly makes me an expert on tarot, so why take my advice? Well, I am obsessed. After I graduated college, I found that I had a hole in my life. While I attempted to fill it with youtube videos, I missed studying. Note taking, buying school supplies, learning new things, challenging myself on a regular basis. Tarot filled that hole for me. There are countless books to read, infinite interpretations of the cards, and 78 cards with about 5 keywords each to study regularly. I own as many decks as I can afford, and with each deck there is more to study. Every reading is an opportunity to challenge myself. Trust me, because I love this, and spend all of my free time learning more about it.
With that said, always do your own research. There is always more to learn, and if you are interested in something I have mentioned, look it up!
Hopefully this gives you something to think about, and a good base to help you understand any of my future articles if you are unfamiliar with tarot.
See you soon, Mavens!
~Miss Tilney
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